Tag Archives: dying

Why I Don’t Want CPR

I’m a DNR – as in “Do Not Resuscitate.” To be honest, the reasons why I don’t want CPR (cardio-pulmonary resuscitation) are a mixture of both faith and fear. Faith that whatever happens after this life is really good and fear that those who pound on my chest may be able to restart my heart… Read More »

Quit Your Bitchin’

Margaret was a devout Presbyterian 95 year old bedbound lady whose loving family had nicknamed her “Bulldog.” Barely five foot and maybe 100 pounds soaking wet, this little spitfire of a woman had helped guide and shape her family for four generations. She was deeply loved and cared for by her offspring. I wasn’t in… Read More »

Meaning Making Machines

Humans are creators of meaning, and finding deep meaning in our experiences is not just another name for spirituality but it is also the very shape of human happiness. – Richard Rohr This nursing home, like most nursing homes, smelled of old people and stale urine. Over the years I’ve learned to carry a small… Read More »


“The stuff of Earth competes for the allegiance I owe only to the Giver of all good things.” – Rich Mullins Several weeks ago Hilda’s nurse called and asked if I could get over to see Hilda right away, she was dying. Hilda, due to years of living with some kind of dementia, lived in… Read More »

Paper or Plastic?

I generally don’t tell people what I do for a living. I mean, when you tell someone you are a hospice chaplain they tend to just tilt their head knowingly and look at you with big doe eyes like you’re Brother Teresa. And I’m not. It’s not that I don’t love what I do or… Read More »