Meditations 4 Misfits

This short video was filmed by a local videographer who is capturing the stories of those of us affected by the wildfires in September of this year.

Fred Grewe shares his experience of losing his home in the Almeda wildfire.

May the fire produce beauty in your life. Blessings, Fred

Heraclitus the Obscure wrote, “I searched for myself.” May you be as successful as Waldo today!

Blessings, Fred

My book makes a great Christmas present … particularly for those folks who annoy you!

Blessings, Fred

What the Dying Have Taught Me about Living: The Awful Amazing Grace of God: Fred Grewe: 9780829820034: Amazon.com: Books

I recently visited with a hospice patient who shared with me one of the best ideas I’ve heard yet on how to cope with the COVID19 housebound blues.

He’s a really likeable guy who’s now confined to a wheelchair and has been for a while. To help him deal with his loss of freedom, his family came up with the idea of going on virtual tours together. Here’s how it works. Once a week he tells them about a place he’s always wanted to visit but now can’t. For example, the first trip they took together was motorcycle ride through Australia. His partner researched various Australian foods and made several recipes that looked and smelled like fun. Then he and his partner loaded some YouTube videos of Australian motorcycle rides and watched them together while they ate. The house was filled with the aromas of Down Under and they had a great time. Each week they research a new virtual tour. Once and awhile their daughter and her partner join in as well.

Not only has this helped ease my friend’s loss of autonomy, but its also brought the whole family closer together. I’m sure they’re crafting memories that’ll bring peaceful comfort after my friend has died.

This is such a great idea I’ve talked with Nancy about us doing it as well. While I’m not on hospice, COVID19 has sure cut down on my freedom. My first stop will be New Zealand to watch an All Blacks match! Where would you like to go?

I know, it’s been a while.

A lot has happened in the past few weeks. We’ve safely moved into our condo in Ashland, and once again have internet access. That’s why I was off the grid while we got things set up.

Although much smaller than our former home, this is a lovely space. The views are spectacular. Morning sun melting the night’s fog on the Siskiyou mountains is a soul nurturing experience. Truth be told though it feels like living in an Airbnb. While it technically is our place and we’re buying the furnishings that are filling it up, it really isn’t our “stuff.” There’s no emotional connection or history to the items now dwelling in our new home. Nancy didn’t weave it, Aunt Rina didn’t give it to us as a wedding gift, we didn’t pick it up on our honeymoon to the coast. They’re nice items to be sure – functional, just not ours. Living here feels a lot like being out of place. It’s just not home.

The other morning while talking with Frank my spiritual director, he asked me to describe how my soul felt about it all and I said it feels like I’m a newborn. The womb that had nurtured my soul for the past number of years, particularly my library, is gone. My sanctuary of a home office has burned and is forever gone. I have been “untimely ripped” from that safe place where I could recharge when life had depleted me. Just as a newborn is unceremonially squished through a dark uterine canal and greeted into a new existence by a hard smack on the ass, so too has the Almeda wildfire thrust me from the safety and solace of my soul’s sanctuary. And just like a newborn, I’m fussy and crying like hell.

It’s not just the loss of the big things, the enormity of it all, but it’s also the memory of the little personal items that get to you. Like Yuri’s shadow box. On my first preaching trip to Russia back in the early 90’s Yuri was my translator in Nizhny Novgorod. We became fast friends. One day as we were walking through town, I noticed a street vendor selling a beautiful little shadow box for about $15. I really wanted it but decided against buying it thinking it would just break on my return trip home. Several years later, Yuri emigrated to the West and was able to bring one suitcase of belongings with him. He had bought that shadow box and brought it to me on a visit as a gift. So while on the insurance inventory sheet I mark it down as a $15 item, to me it is irreplaceable. I cry just thinking about it. It reminds me of Yuri and our friendship. How do you put a number on that? And our home was filled with innumerable such items for both Nancy and me. Now all forever gone.

So, like a newborn I’m trying to adapt to my new surroundings. Trying to discover a new way of being in the world without my old comforts. It is hard, but it’s not all bleak and dreary. Actually, there are times I find it quite hopeful. Just as a newborn has a whole new life ahead, so do I. What new adventures await? Like it or not, it’s time to rebuild. And the comforting thing is that I’m not alone. The One who created me also travels this way with me. While the fire has taken much, it has not been able to erase the Creator’s words etched into my soul, “Never will I leave you nor forsake you.”

BTW, here’s a link to a Washington Post video documenting the Almeda wildfire that took our home. https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2020/10/20/oregon-almeda-fire/?arc404=true